Thursday, March 23, 2006
Anatomy of "Live-In" relationships
Like any other thing in the world livin-in relationships too have their pro's and cons...as a young gurl i used to look forward into getting in a live-in relationship...who wud'nt after hearing all those jokes bout commitment and how the sacrement of marriage sucks.But as i grown i've realised something - it's a male dominated world in some matters no matter how much we women try.
I would like to point out, and very firmly too, that live-in relationships maybe a "fad" in the western world but thankfully it is "not catching" in India..The model of heterosexual, monogamous marriage is sanctioned by society, religion and the law as the only acceptable type of sexual relationship. We in India are so heavily socialized to believe in the ideals of monogamy and marriage that many ppl cannot even imagine any other option. Yeh right think bout ur parents forcing u'll to marry once u complete 25 yrs.
Yes, we do hear and see of a few, very few stray cases but on the whole the strong interwoven fabric of morality and family values that is our pride and strength, still prevails and will hopefully continue to do so.
This increasing trend of live-in relationships, best observed in the west, favours the male member in the relationship.It's like why buy a cow when milk is readily available?? There is no commitment on his part. But what about the female member in the live-in relationship?
Disillusionment with love, single motherhood, social unacceptability and many times, she maybe the receiver of sexually transmitted diseases topped by devastating AIDS.
And spare a thought for the children who are the "fruit"of such relationships - they are scarred and traumatized for life; unfortunate offspring of an unfortunate couple of an unfortunate relationship.
The main claim of live-in relationships is that it does not bind the partners with "chains" of marriage. Actually there exists no chains in marriage. It is threads, hundreads of tiny threads which sew ppl together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last -more than passion or even sex.
I would like to point out, and very firmly too, that live-in relationships maybe a "fad" in the western world but thankfully it is "not catching" in India..The model of heterosexual, monogamous marriage is sanctioned by society, religion and the law as the only acceptable type of sexual relationship. We in India are so heavily socialized to believe in the ideals of monogamy and marriage that many ppl cannot even imagine any other option. Yeh right think bout ur parents forcing u'll to marry once u complete 25 yrs.
Yes, we do hear and see of a few, very few stray cases but on the whole the strong interwoven fabric of morality and family values that is our pride and strength, still prevails and will hopefully continue to do so.
This increasing trend of live-in relationships, best observed in the west, favours the male member in the relationship.It's like why buy a cow when milk is readily available?? There is no commitment on his part. But what about the female member in the live-in relationship?
Disillusionment with love, single motherhood, social unacceptability and many times, she maybe the receiver of sexually transmitted diseases topped by devastating AIDS.
And spare a thought for the children who are the "fruit"of such relationships - they are scarred and traumatized for life; unfortunate offspring of an unfortunate couple of an unfortunate relationship.
The main claim of live-in relationships is that it does not bind the partners with "chains" of marriage. Actually there exists no chains in marriage. It is threads, hundreads of tiny threads which sew ppl together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last -more than passion or even sex.
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